ON MARRIAGE

Yup-taking it up a notch today.

The most frequently asked question I get (besides the infamous baby one)
since being married is....
"Does your relationship change when you get married? If so, how?"

or
 "Isn't it the same as dating if you've already lived together before getting married?"

Really think about those questions for a minute.

I'm not an expert on this subject, considering I've only been married just over 2 years
and we're definitely not perfect {what couple is?},
but I'd like to give my perspective on this topic and get your feedback, too. 

I was that girl before we got married who always said I didn't think our relationship
 was going to be that different once we got married.
I mean, we already lived together for a year on our own before we got married
 (and he practically lived with me and my best friend Lindsay before that)
so what would possibly change?

 

Wrong.

 I honestly thought our relationship together would be the same because we already
went through the whole adjustment of living with friends to now each other...
sharing things (a closet-HELLO, that's a big deal!), learning how the other
 likes to clean (or not to...), etc.
I didn't understand what couples meant when they said marriage is different
and changed things, but I do now. 

I always try to explain to my friends when they ask, but it's hard to explain in words
 just exactly what I mean. 

The best way I can describe it is this-
when you are dating there is always an option to throw in the towel..

to fight over really petty small things, to nitpick..

to wonder constantly if they are or are not right for you.
you may not work as hard at it-therefore you don't get the most out of it.

When you are married, you have more passion and willingness to make your relationship work.
{or maybe it's that you just don't want to kill each other at times...}
you don't want or care about the petty arguments as much. 
 you come together as a team.

 

In my situation, marriage has completely changed our relationship for the better.

Do we still get in arguments? Of course (and then feel really silly after...)
But do we fight over the small stuff anymore? No, not as much.
Our communication is better and it just feels good that we are on the same page!
One of my favorite things that I hear from friends (besides how I'm the coolest person ever, obviously..)
is how much they can see the change in us. That makes me so happy to hear.

Truth is - marriage really is the best and I'm thankful for Billy everyday.
Sometimes I will just look at him and think about how far we've come since our college days
and am so proud and thankful.
 
Marriage takes work and "they say" that.....
 

So, here's what I ask of you. 

It's difficult to describe, but how do you think marriage has changed your relationship?
What do you think is different? or has it stayed the same?

I might use some of your answers for a future post of some sort!
{And if you're not married-just be patient. You're time/prince charming will come! :)}

to be continued....

Recent Confessions in Married Life

I have come to realize there are a bunch of random, strange, and just hypocritical things I do when Billy isn't around, and wondered if any other of you ladies do the same thing when your man isn't home. No one is perfect, right?!

 Note to self: if no one does, improve your wifely duties.


Here are my recent confessions...


Sometimes...I find myself watching Locked Up Abroad and Auction Hunters even though when Billy puts them on, I complain immediately, and hope he turns the channel soon or I will just die from bad TV abuse. It's like they are that much better when I initiate watching them.

...I quickly bring in my shopping bags from my car and hang them up in our closet so he doesn't notice I bought anything new. Then, I hide the bags that would otherwise serve as evidence. (I will say...Billy is very accepting of my shopping problems and I do tell him about most shopping extravaganzas)

...I take a billion and one pictures of our dog. Hey, you can never have too many...

...I hang up his clothes in the closet and sort them by colors because it DRIVES ME CRAZY when he leaves them all over his side of the bed (see- I can be a good wifey!).


...I sometimes delete some of his old Swamp People shows that he records (and NEVER even ends up watching) so that my precious reality shows won't ever have a chance of not being recording. 

...I double and triple check the laundry when he does it. <---I'm just trying to save us from potential disaster?

 ...I lock all doors in our house (bedroom, basement door, door that leads to the garage, etc) at night even when I know he will be home in a few hours. I even lock him out of the house sometimes and forget that I did and go to bed. Then, I wonder why he's calling me and waking me up during my beauty sleep when he realizes he's locked out. <---I'm a lost cause.

...I take snapshots of our texts and then embarass him on my blog.

...I start home projects that I think I can master all on my own and then end up calling him 7 times to ask him how to use a certain tool and complain when I can't get it work.



Tell me...what do you do when your boyfriend or husband isn't around?

What do you confess?

So, I have to share this. Last night we got a belated wedding gift from my cousin's mom and it is AWESOME {not to mention getting wedding gifts 10 months after our wedding is pretty awesome as well}.

How beautiful are these?

They are from a specicialty glass shop in Cincinnati, Ohio.

I fancy anything and everything monogrammed.

Happy Thursday everyone!

xo.